The Unknown Golden Rule in Dating

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“He said he would call me sometime, so I’m sure I’ll hear from him soon”

“Did you see that chick last night, she was kissing me and all over me, she is going to be new my girlfriend guys”

Ever wonder why that guy hasn’t called you yet, or why that girl you made out with at the bar is simply not returning your calls?

During this journey of bar hopping, stalking guys and girls at malls, and even getting all dressed up to go to the grocery store to buy a piece of cheese, communication misinterpretation is bound to happen

It happens when that guy doesn’t call you back after the first date and you don’t know why

It happens when that girl you hooked up with at the bar does not return your phone calls and you don’t understand why she won’t see you again

It is this very misinterpretation that can cause you to waste countless hours on guys or girls who will not pan out in future

I want to show you what misinterpretation in relationships is, and how one rule can help you overcome lead yourself to more positive, healthy, and long lasting relationships

A woman and a man walk into a bar

The woman sits down at the bar and orders an apple martini, while the gentleman meets up with his friends and drinks a beer

The woman notices an attractive man sitting next to her and tries to get his attention by sitting more upright, running her hand around her drinking glass, and trying to make eye contact with him

The man drinking beer with his friends notices this ravishing woman from across the bar and works up the nerve to head in her direction and possibly strike a conversation

The woman finally gets the man’s attention sitting next to him by “accidently” bumping into him. They begin conversing though the man seems more interested in the football game on TV than this woman who is telling him how much she loves his leather jacket

Meanwhile the first man is watching this interaction take place, waiting for an opportune moment to get this stunning woman’s attention

The woman at the bar places her drink right next to the elbow of the man sitting next to her, where it is quickly struck by the man and onto the dress of the woman at the bar

The man at the bar notices and apologizes, and quietly excuses himself from the woman

The man with the beer has noticed this opportunity for a conversation and runs up with napkins to help the woman in distress

The woman says, “thank you” with a big smile on her face

The man believes that this woman must really like him for being so nice to her, and he immediately classifies her as his next potential girlfriend

The woman thinks the man who accidently knocked the drink on her will be back with his own napkins to help clean her up, and of course take her on a romantic date afterwards

Notice any problems with this scenario?

Misinterpretation in relationships can single handling cause more headaches and confusing in dating than any other somersault or back flip that seems to need to occur during the courting of a man or woman

The first man likely thought that because the girl at the bar said thank you , that he had scored and would likely spend the rest of the night tending to her every whim with the likelihood of getting a number that will lead to no man’s land

The woman at the bar likely is still attracted to the man who clearly is to interested in her, and will continue to ignore the man who is bending over backwards to make her happy

This is something that I see all the time, and not just in bars

This misinterpretation seems to occur with nearly every man and woman in nearly every relationship, at least at one point or another

If a guy tells a girl she looks pretty, he could be doing it in a nice way, or in a sexual way

A girl will almost always assume it means that he is into her

If a girl tells a guy that he is really nice and he is a good guy

A guy will likely believe that she is into him by paying such a nice compliment

The common denominator in any of these scenarios is the uncanny ability of the human mind to rationalize and analyze anything a guy or girl does and interpret in a way that benefits them

While having “blind confidence” can support you in achieving your dreams in life, there are moments when you must truly understand a situation before you can exert a level of “all-knowingness”

When it comes to the topic of relationships and misinterpretation it is important to understand this simple rule

1)      If a guy(girl) wants to see you, he(she) will find a way to see you

Note that when I say see you, you can replace that with nearly any verb (call you, talk to you, kiss you, etc)

This rule will allow you less stress and more understanding in all of you’re dating and relationships adventures

While as a guy or a girl, having confidence, whether blind or not, is amazing for dating as it will make you more attractive to most guys and girls

It is the moments described above when this rule can be applied

When that girl kindly brushes you off, you can understand that her genuinely saying sorry when she steps on your foot at a bar was not an attempt for you to take her back to your place

Now as a man you can change your approach and try again, or move on because you are wasting time

When a man says he’s going to call you, and he doesn’t try to kiss you, hug you, or even touch your hand when he leaves that bar stool next to you

As a woman you can realize that he wasn’t worth your time, brush it off, and find a guy worthy of your attention

See how simple this is?

Exercise this rule in moments of confusion during your relationships and watch your stress and success rises

Let me know how your next bar crawl goes